Is Love At First Sight Real?
Yes! Absolutely! Love at first sight happens…sometimes. Not as often as we wish it did. Not as often as we think it does. Let’s start with something that most of us have experienced now and then: like at first sight. You meet a new group of people—in a new job, new class, etc—and they […]
How to Get Over Public Speaking Anxiety–Instantly
Lots of people are afraid of public speaking—but you don’t have to be. There’s an easy way to get over it quickly, almost instantly. I didn’t just dream up what I am about to describe. It follows the logic of an approach to therapy invented by the Austrian psychiatrist, Victor Frankl more than 60 years […]
TOTALLY RELAXED DATING – An Article By Dr. Sam R Hamburg
Sounds like an oxymoron doesn’t it, like “dry rain” or “jumbo shrimp.” But you can totally relaxed when you’re out on a date. All it takes is that you understand this one simple truth: You can’t make anybody like you. We’ve all been taught since childhood that the task in social relations, whether romantic […]
YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME FOR YOUR MARRIAGE PROBLEMS— AND NEITHER IS YOUR PARTNER!
There is conventional wisdom about marriage in this country. It was formulated in part by marriage counselors and therapists, and it goes like this: “Marriage is good. So if your marriage is bad, that means that there is something wrong with you. You don’t handle conflict properly; you aren’t committed enough to your marriage; you […]
Transforming an Unhappy Marriage: Strategies for Managing Depression and Anxiety
Introduction Marriage is often portrayed as a source of joy and fulfillment, but the reality is that many couples face challenges that can lead to feelings of depression and anxiety. As a clinical psychologist specializing in anxiety disorders, including panic attack disorder, agoraphobia, social anxiety disorder, and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), I’ve worked with countless individuals […]
Coping with Frustration in Marriage: Strategies for Strengthening Your Relationship
Identify the Source of Frustration Marriage is a journey filled with love, joy, and companionship, but it’s also natural for couples to experience frustration and challenges along the way. As a clinical psychologist specializing in relationships, I’ve witnessed first hand how frustration can impact marriages and undermine the bond between partners. In this article, I’ll […]
Marriage Problems are NOT Communication Problems
Communication has become so identified with marriage and its problems that many couples come into my office and say, “We have a communication problem,” instead of just saying, “We have a marital problem.” They have learned this from marital therapists. It so happens that the pioneers of modern marital therapy were communication oriented. They thought […]
Why You Can Marry The Right Person
In his authoritatively titled op-ed, “Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person,” the novelist, Alain de Botton, whips a mélange of personal impressions, empirically unfounded but presented as facts, and assorted well-worn items of psychobabble to serve up a conclusion that is false. I am a scientifically-minded psychologist who has been struggling to help couples […]